There are no guarantees in life BUT…
….You will never know if you don’t give it a go.
You will definitely never give it a go if you don’t know something exists that carries possibility. I’m in Denmark right now, trying something, I did not know existed until June 2023. I am in a quaint rural town, on my own, without a single word of Danish. I’m here with the full knowledge that it may not work, for me. ‘Work’ being such a two dimensional perspective. I am also here in the full knowledge, that it may be life changing.
I’m telling you this, because I think people with health challenges, should never limit themselves. I think there is a lot of emotive terminology used when people try things outside of what is comfortable for some healthcare professionals. I often meet people who fully believe that Western Medicine is the only solution and that it always works. How shocking it is, when as inevitably happens as people age, or they become unwell earlier in life, to discover how limited Western Medicine can be. For acute health issues Western Medicine can be phenomenal and literally life saving.
Labelling of people with a chronic disease as vulnerable really irritates me. It is incredibly disempowering and displays such a level of arrogance by the labellers! Everybody is vulnerable at times, it doesn’t make you weak, it doesn’t make you stupid, it simply makes you human.
Get curious. Don’t limit yourself. You might not find the solution you are looking for but you will open up your world. Life is amazing and as long as you are breathing you get to have a lived human experience.
You will never give it a go if you live in fear and respond to life in fight, flight or freeze mode.
The world is not out to get you unless you believe it is. In that headspace you will fight with your own shadow! Skepticism reigns here. Educate yourself, ask questions of yourself and your reactions. We all make stupid decisions at times. This does not mean you are stupid. Ask more questions. Don’t judge the expert in front of you, even the Godsperts! Occasionally they do not realise they themselves are human and therefore they are not perfect. Find another expert.
Running away, avoiding discomfort, getting real busy being busy. Looking after everyone else first is a classic and women are particularly expert at this. What if it makes me worse or what if it doesn’t work. Most scary of all what if it does! RUN, RUN, RUN…
If I just stay here in my fear, and I’m polite and smiley and accepting. Nobody around me gets upset or uneasy. Sur isn’t life grand (eye-roll here please). Or I joke about my issues before anybody else does then I am fine with this, right . Eh no no no no nooo! I fully accept this quality, well 30% 60% 75% quality of life. I’ve just about reached a comfort level in this level of discomfort. If I choose to make changes I might fall apart. In case that is you, take it from someone who knows, you won’t. I’m fitting right in socially and culturally so WHY would I move from this headspace? It’s not that bad really, is it? If you are questioning it then you already know your answer.
You get to choose your direction. If it doesn’t work you can choose another.